You may be like I was for a long time in my life... showing up in your outer life, functioning quite well and even sharing yourself in rather impressive ways on the outside, but riddled with negative self-talk on the inside. I now understand that this comes from the foundation of our early lives, when we were intended to be loved and guided through Nine Nurturing Needs... and yet, we have lived in a world that has not even known how to identify what those needs are.
When our Nine Nurturing Needs are not even identified, much less honored and encouraged, we have a survival system in the limbic brain that personalizes these limitations. "I don't deserve to be loved." "Somehow I am always wrong or not enough."
The spectrum of possibilities for this negative self-talk is endless... and yet, it is all based on a myth!
What most people don't understand is that mommy and daddy were not holding out these Nine Nurturing Needs because you didn't deserve... but merely because they were not equipped to provide them. You see, they, too, have been carrying around the same patterns of a wounded child--wondering why they didn't deserve those same needs from their parents.
I know from teaching thousands of clients around the world that we have been a world caught up in this myth together! And I also know that it is all learned behavior, and once we learn what the Nine Nurturing Needs are and how we might begin to practice those on ourselves, it is never too late to turn around the negative self-talk or self-judgment.
I am in the process of writing a book--The Nine Nurturing Needs: Keys to Fulfillment.
In the meantime, here is a video that can help you begin to identify how trapped you have been in self-judgment, as well as offering ways you can begin to interrupt this toxic behavior... which only diminishes the quality of your life.