EAL 015: Four People in Every Relationship?!?
Most people are surprised when I tell them that there are four people in every relationship. And yet, it is true.
I have been sharing an empowered approach for creating amazing relationships for many years. My clients have some of the most intimate, connected, authentic relationships that I have ever seen.
Understanding the four people that have to be understood and negotiated for a healthy relationship makes all the difference. I look forward to sharing that with you today.
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Timeline coordinates with the Audio Version
1:15 Relationships are at the core of everything you do.
2:15 We all have three layers of consciousness
2:45 First level - child consciousness
3:15 When you receive nine nurturing needs, you learn to connect to your physical, emotional and mental aspects of self.
3:30 Nurturing creates the foundation for self-value
4:15 We have all been missing a healthy education about self and these levels of our beings.
4:45 Most people are wounded. Protected. And in need of healthy education.
5:30 Frozen in child/survival consciousness. Defended and separate.
6:00 This all happens without any real awareness.
6:45 Second level - adult consciousness
7:15 We must all learn how to heal wounded child consciousness.
8:00 What happens in your adult life when you make a distinct mistake?
8:30 Watch for fear, shame and judgment coming up in your adult life.
9:00 Adult consciousness is fully comfortable with making mistakes.
10:00 We present our best selves at the beginning of relationships.
10:15 Two adults and two wounded children.
11:15 There must be space for the wounded parts of self stuck in fear, shame and judgment.
12:15 Do you want your friends to only pretend to be wonderful, while they hide most of themselves? Or do you want people to trust being authentic with you?
13:15 Why is there such a high divorce rate?
13:45 Most people don’t know how to negotiate their wounds.
14:30 Often in conflict, there are NO ADULTS in the room.
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